Social Media Has Created a Whole New Industry

Social media has created a whole new industry where there are now therapist specializing in social media addiction and the depression, anxiety, and attempted suicides that come with it. And I’m NOT just talking about adults... I work with one of those amazing therapy centers. I am so thankful for the work that Paradigm San Francisco does to help our youth, and the value they see from having sound healing as part of their program once a week. This is real. For something that is suppose to bring us together, and be a source of information, how can we empower our youth when they are inundated by highlight reels? I’m not saying take away screen time... this is still a powerful tool! But how do we empower our youth on social media? I don’t know what it’s like to be a parent. But I can tell you that our kids need us. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be hired by these therapy centers to work with them...

What dialog are you having with your children around social media? Have you experienced a dialog around comparison, depression, anxiety, or sexuality from what they are seeing on these channels? Comment below.

(Thank you ahead time for anyone commenting on this sensitive topic.)

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Danielle

They Are You Judging You Anyway

When we don’t feel fully expressed we tend to feel disconnected... disconnected from friends, partners, ourselves, spirit. We may start to feel directionless. Lonely. Like no one really understands us.

I was feeling all of these things. I had this belief that I had to make myself accessible and approachable. That all my hard work and credibility would be challenged... that no one would take me seriously. I’m 5 feet tall, petite, don’t look my age, and I am playing in an arena with 50+ year olds in the corporate and medical space who judge my looks before my credentials. (I know a lot of you here have experienced this in one shape or form - culturally, ethnicity, sexual orientation, religion, etc.)

When the awareness around my self expression came in I stared to see the internal conversation unfold around all the fears of being Fully Expressed. In the call today with my coach she said, “Danielle, don’t worry IF people will judge you. They ARE ALREADY judging you. So why not just be expressed?”

It’s something I say to my clients... and it was reflected back to me in just the bold, forward talk that my brain and body needed to shake me out of the FEAR:
The fear I have of loosing credibility. 
The fear I have of loosing respect. 
The fear I have of not being taken seriously. The fear I have of failing in getting the message out about the power of sound healing! 
The fear I have of I will be perceived as TOO MUCH for a someone in a romantic relationship.
The fear I have of that tattoos will scare people away from my message. 
The fear I have of I will not have close female friendships...

I go back one more time to Like the River Salon where @ginaj_hairsmyworld will take my hair all the way white. I’m checking in to your recommendations for tattoo artists. And I am squashing these fears. Once small action at a time. I am being loyal (@intentionallygray ) and loving to myself. People are going to judge you no matter what. They are going to judge your confidence. Your hair. Your style. Your smile... they are judging you based on their own filters and life experiences. Do you, because they are gonna judge anyway and you are not going to make the impact in the world you want to make by accommodating to what you THINK others are thinking. And you are sure not going to enjoy this ride called Life!

Thanks so much for the love and for following this story. I hope that it inspires you to me the fullest expression of yourself. 💕

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Danielle

WELP… I’m feeling it!

WELP… I’m feeling it!

I don’t know what it is but when I feel like something has shifted within, I feel the need to change my hair.  Like, “THIS” is what I have to do to express the shift that has happened on the inside for it to fully be expressed.  A statement, an exclamation point, an “I have committed to” the showing up fully in the evolution and alignment of self. And this… was a BIG SHIFT.

The kind with resistance, the ugly cry, and girl friends having your back when you go head to head with yourself!

I started working with a coach with the intention to evolve my spiritual practice. The very first session opened up awareness on foundation (root), play (sacral), and inner dialog (solar plexus) around the Self Expression.

I will admit… I was offended! (the resistance!) But it was true! (the ugly cry!) The more I explored this (friends showed up) with my coach we discovered that I had a belief that I needed to look a certain way to be accessible, approachable, and be taken seriously in my work endeavors, in friendships, and in love. (Its partially true about some areas of my work.) Though I have dabbled and tested the waters in a few areas, I haven’t had the courage to show up in the fullest outward expression of myself.

Tomorrow, I am taking the first step.  Hair. (Not surprising! Haha!) My wardrobe will slowly evolve, and I am scoping out tattoo artists. The conversation on my feed will start to shift, and I will be adding a different type of sound bath experience for those wanting to go deeper into meditative experiences. (Stay tuned) And the biggest expression of all VOICE, will come more into play.

I share this because I strongly believe if Im not showing up fully, how can I ask you?  We may all be on different paths, but they all lead to the same place. Inner peace. We all deserve to live a life we love. And the first step is to look in the mirror. I’m nervous and feeling a lot of emotions around this, but excited to see it all come together. And most of all, feel fully expressed.

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Danielle

#MusicModernizationAct PASSED

THANK YOU... thank you for your hard work and long hours Recording Academy... you did it!!.

Music creators needed copyright reform to ensure fair compensation for their work. Since 2014, the @recordingacademy has championed comprehensive music licensing reform. Congress listened!

The #MusicModernizationAct, is the biggest update to music legislation in the past 40 years! Impacting hundreds of thousands of music creators nationwide, and future generations, the Act unites provisions from across the music community under one legislative umbrella to ensure advancement and protections for all music creators.

INCREDIBLE.

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Danielle

SoundEmbrace in VoyageATL!

Well hello, VoyageATL!

It’s really interesting to be called a Trailblazer when you are doing what you know to be right within yourself. But i have to say... it does mean a lot to me that my story and passion is interesting enough to be shared by others. Especially around my work in sound healing. .

You can check out the interview here:
http://voyageatl.com/interview/meet-trailblazer-danielle-hall/

I will just leave this here for now... I am still processing and allowing myself to take it in. 

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Danielle

Calm the mind already!

There are many forms of Sound Healing that can be used as a way to help release ourselves from our obsessive thinking.

When we sing to the songs on the radio, becoming ONE with Bae, or Brushin Your Should Off, we are in a sense, emulating those artists. However, laying down for a sound bath experience can be used as a tool to support in the letting go of the personas we pick up during our day, as well as the one we identify with... it helps you let go of thoughts, bring awareness back to Sound and truly find Stillness. .
A regular practice trains us to have the ability to let go. You can think of sound as the net that captures your thoughts into one place and the stillness diffuses its power over you and releases it. Going back to sound is an empowered action that supports us in the letting go of the things we obsess over. Like... if Kiki really does loves you. DUUUUUUDE! Come on! If you made sound to stillness a part of your everyday practice this THING with Kiki may not take as long to get over!

That goes for all of us. Having a Sound to Stillness Practice supports you in those times you get a blast of negative emotions like when you’re cut off in traffic, have a disagreement, go through a breakup, or someone writes your name wrong on your cup at Starbucks... it may take you 2 months to get over it rather than a year!

September is a special month. I am wrapping up my time facilitating in Philly and road tripping back to Atlanta tomorrow. Just in time to start a series of Sound Baths starting THIS Wednesday night.

These sound bath experiences can be used as a tool to conquer your obsessive mind chatter by training ourselves to let go and come back to a deeper, quieter place within.

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Danielle

Follow the feeling!

Follow the feeling.

I make decisions based on feeling. I get shit for it from time to time, but I have found that when I follow the feeling the mind comes in and figures out the rest. It’s served me well.

Relationships.
Work.
Friendships.
Go this way.
Say this.
Don’t say anything.

That feeling sense of our bodies is often overlooked but it’s always guiding us. We need only to pay attention.

Do you follow what you’re feeling? I know I can’t be the only one. Sound Healing has amplified it for me! The practice of using Sound to capture mind chatter to find Stillness has had a profound affect on my life.. Crystal bowls, chanting, drumming, breath... all vibrational tools that help us connect to our physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual bodies.

I don’t always want to act upon the feeling or awareness that comes through. And sometimes I make it hard on myself by resisting... but it always ends up showing me the truth. And while the truth can be hard to accept, it can also be liberating.

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Danielle

From Sound to Stillness

Whenever I feel like I'm not quite sure what I need to do next OR am feeling overwhelmed, I find the peace and clarity I need when I take myself out of what is familiar.

I consider all of this pretty natural. It’s easy to fall into a routine when we are in a familiar space. We fall into a comfortable rhythm. It’s safe. The same words. The same thoughts. The same food. The same people. The same movement. When we do something over and over it becomes a habit and we begin to make unconscious actions. Those actions can sometimes lead to a feeling of “stuck” for me. Have you experienced that?

Taking myself out of my “everyday” disrupts those rhythms and patterns. It introduces me to a different conversation and awarenesses that supports me in finding clarity and focus in my next steps. Sometimes that’s through a road trip. Sometimes it’s by making the conscious decision to do something differently.

But, I didn't always have this level of self awareness. Sound Healing has helped me build this awareness. I use Sound as the vehicle to get me to Stillness.

It is within Stillness, we find awareness and clarity that we can then use to Empower ourselves to make the change we want to see in our lives, and there is so much peace that comes from it. The more you practice Stillness, the easier it is to get there.

I have so many opportunities for you to join me this month. Ive noticed that my facilitation has shifted. I’m starting to use my voice more and it feels like my drums have come alive! Your energy is asking for something different and I am answering the call. I can tell that many of you are starting to find your voice. I hear you.

Choose to do something you haven’t done before, or maybe just a little out of routine. Witness the mind and body align to find peace and clarity. 

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Danielle

The feelings are catching up with me

The feelings are catching up with me.

When I started working with Sound I knew that THIS would be the vehicle to help people feel safe in exploring the reflection they see in the mirror every day. To take an honest look and become curious. To take ownership of the part they play in their life. Sound would also be there for them to find empowerment. The last few days have shown me a lot about myself. If I didn’t believe it before, I believe it now down to the core of my soul. This is how I am meant to serve.

Saturday, was epic. 
13 Sound Healers came together for my Sound Healing 101 class. I am so grateful and honored to have your trust in guiding you. You all bring something beautiful and unique to this work and I am so excited to witness what manifests next for you! I thank you for stepping into your truth because when you did, you provided the opportunity for me to step into mine. And the same for others.

Sunday, was other worldly.
I love working with 1 on 1. And though this experience will be kept private, again, I have to give immense gratitude for the trust bestowed upon me. Thank you for inviting me into your home and for allowing me to hold space for you and your family.

Monday, the cherry on top.
I feel like I am in a movie... I spent 1 day teaching the science, history, and application of sound in a therapeutic way, next to a day purely spiritual in nature, and then today creating a sound bath experience for Chik-Fil-A! Thank you for a room full of excited faces looking in to a new experience! My body is tired. My eyes are heavy, but my heart is full.

Time to unplug for a bit. I look forward to seeing you at a sound bath soon! May all your endeavors be blessed with the love and gratitude I have in my heart for the opportunity to serve you.

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Danielle

The smell of Purell still lingers in my nostrils.

The last 48 hours have been rough.

For the first time in my career I had to “call in”. To those who have signed up for the Soul Flow Yoga + Sound Bath I apologize I could not show up, but I know I left you in great hands with Shana Nunnelly 

I am amazed at how dedicated our bodies are to fight off “evil doers”. No matter how volatile it needs to get in the fight. Food poisoning is not joke. At one point I was so weak I couldn’t walk, was seeing black dots, shivering uncontrollably, and yet, sweating. 6 miserable hours at Emory emergency room only to lay in a bed for an hour to receive the precious life giving saline solution... I still wonder if I could get the same from Vida-Flo and not have to witness all the things you witness while in an emergency waiting room. Nor the wait time. Nor the cost of not having insurance. The smell of Purell still lingers in my nostrils.

Thanks to the support of many who answered the call, whether picking me up early to get away from the impending fire alarm testing in my building, sending a smoothie through Uber Eats, bringing me water, the grand trip to the emergency room... and the waiting! Bone broth and all the loving text messages, I am feeling better.

Thank you all for your understanding. I hope to see you at next months sound bath where we can hug it out.

<3
Danielle

Lion’s Gate Portal

Today is an important day... and not just because it’s my friend @kvn_8 birthday! •

Each year, the Lion’s Gate Portal, opens from July 26 to August 12. This powerful portal of light transmission reaches its peak on August 8th (8/8). The number 8 is associated with harmony, balance and abundance. When placed on its side, it is the symbol of infinity.
This is a powerful time that gives us the opportunity to make BIG changes and transitions in our lives, in particular to move toward our most authentic selves.

Here are 6 tips from The Huffington Post on taking full advantage of this potent energy:

Be present
It’s all that there is. Be there with open eyes, open ears, open hearts and open minds. Bring your best self to every moment.

Focus on the Path In Front of You
The 23rd Psalm tells us that we have a shepherd and there is no reason to want anything - for it is all laid out before us. In green pastures and still waters. (Makes me want to go golfing!) If we let go of what limits us, we can put one foot in front of the other and follow our inner GPS. Don’t be afraid (fear no evil) to listen to how you feel and move toward your best thought. You are being guided. Take one day to really believe that and you will be amazed at what happens.

Roar like a Lion
This is the time to speak your truth. That’s doesn’t mean to rip anyone’s head off. It just means to make sure the voice that you are using is yours. Not the critic that lives in your head who sounds a lot like your mother. Be gentle and kind with your words, but never compromise what you are saying.

Don’t go back into the Lion’s Den for your Hat
The expression means if you get out of a difficult situation, don’t go back to it. Not even in your mind. There’s no need to replay old movies in your head. Move forward. Release the people and the things in your life that are no longer serving you. You’ll make space for all kinds of new relationships and adventures.

Hang out in your den with members of your soul tribe.
You know who they are. The people who make you feel loved, make you laugh, give you their shoulder. Your soul needs all the nurturing you can muster.

Show Your Pride
Do everything that you do that makes you feel good about yourself. Eat well. Sleep well. Exercise. Wear your good jewelry. Light candles. Let your freak flag fly. Be proud of who you are and what you have accomplished.

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Danielle

Wake up Solar Plexus!

Wake up Solar Plexus!

When did we loose ourselves?
When did we become so busy with being busy?
When did we forget that we are enough, and have always been enough? 
When we don’t feel like we are ENOUGH… we make decisions based on NOT being enough. 
We may over eat, stay in a relationship we know is not good for us, sit in a job we hate because the conversation in your head is: “Who am I to do that?” “Who am I to ask for more?”
“Who am I to be loved?” when… “Who are you not to?” What have you put on the back burner because you haven’t felt ENOUGH to do it? What is 1 small action you can take TODAY towards shifting that?

<3 Danielle

Point A to Point B.

I love hearing someone’s story of how they got from point A to point B. It’s usually a curvy, bumpy road with detours, u turns, and unexpected change of plans... The stories I like best though, are the ones where someone has turned their “I SHOULD” into “I MUST” and decide they are not settling for anything less!

We don’t get our goals, we get our MUST’s.

“It’s what you practice in private that you will be rewarded for in public.” Tony Robbins

Relax. Restore. Revive. Sound Bath is back at The Training Room Atlanta this Sunday, August 5th!

AND!!! @watlmidtown is hosting Mind. Body. Soul. Series Thursday August 16th, 23RD, and 30th!! You know that sound bath is going to be AWESOME with 360 views of the city at sunset, candles, and I am bringing in 3 sound healers to work with me! 
Team Torch Fit is taking over with Mind! 
Yoga Caron from Highland Yoga is flowing with Body!
And I got your back with Soul! 
Let’s turn those SHOULD’s into MUST’s!!! Sign up now to reserve your spot!

<3 Danielle

Breaking Old Patterns.

I had to get punched in the boob before I could believe I was capable.

We don’t know what we don’t know and its easy to get stuck in repeating patterns, thought processes, and belief systems. And sometimes it takes something really BIG to shake us up so we can come at from a new direction and perspective.

1. I had a belief that I was always going to be sick.

It took a Doctor saying, “If we don’t find out what’s going on with you, you’re going down a really dark road.” …that made me realize I wanted to  LIVE.

2. I had a belief that because I worked so much I was not able to cultivate deep connections of friendship. 

Then, I was homeless for 6 months bouncing from one friends couch to another, and I had the opportunity to have mirrored the love and depth of my relationships.

3. I had a belief that I didn’t have anything worth sharing that would be of value to people.

Then, I shared my health story with a young woman and 2 months later she reached out to share how it changed her life.

The Universe punches us in the boob to shake us up when we get into that tunnel vision, or spiral of limiting beliefs.  It puts us in a situation to HAVE to think differently so we can TAKE ACTION on seeing the change we want in our lives. It is these moments that we have an opportunity to see what we are capable of.  When I look at all that’s happen I can find strength and know that “I am capable.”

Thank you @artsymarie for today’s affirmation. 💕

<3 Danielle

Community is like Fire.

“Community is like fire. It can feed your growth or it can destroy it.” - Danielle Hall

Who you surround yourself with is important. Studies have shown that you are most like the 5 people you hang out with or talk to most. 
Are those people lifting you up? 
Are those people loving? 
Kind? 
Motivated? 
If not... I’m sorry but it’s time you find a new squad. Otherwise, you risk never knowing your true potential. You risk not knowing how good life can truly be!

Community is everything to me. It’s what helped me through my darkest times when I lost faith in my healing process, times when I was heartbroken, times when I felt lost on my career path... but the communities I am apart of kept that faith for me! Show’d me how much love was around me! Shined a light on the path in front of me!!!

I would not be here today, doing what I do, feeling fulfilled, loved, and filled with a joy for waking up everyday without the amazing community of people I surround myself by.

I’d love to have a deeper conversation around the power of community: The good, the bad, and the ugly.

Where have you experienced how community has had the power and influence to bring you down a road less desirable?

How have you experienced the power and influence of community to lift you up? 

<3 Danielle

The Story We Tell Ourselves.

When we have a thought, it is the story we tell ourselves, the belief system we have in place that dictates the feelings we are going to have and why we react the way we do.

“You can be the Master of your own mind, or you can be its Servant.”

I was reminded of this in a beautiful yoga + meditation class by Octavia Raheem & Meryl Arnett from Sacred Chill West at Dirty South Yoga Fest this weekend. & just as the Universe reminded me of this in those words, It also created an experience for me to practice it.

I was eager to make a get away after lunch to catch up on some things on my TO DO list. I was carrying a lot of stuff but managed to open my trunk, shove everything in, & close it, only to find that I had then locked the key in the car.

I stood there for a moment, stunned, & said, “Ok, how can I empower myself in this situation?”

I looked at Hercules (My Fiat) w/disbelief.  Checked every door. Then looked in my hands to see what I had with me: My phone. My house key.  AWESOME!
“I have a spare at home!” So, I called an Uber. Got home, couldn’t find the spare…

Again, I asked myself, “How can I empower myself?” To make sure I wasn’t crazy, I called my friend Shana Nunnelly who was still at the festival to double check the doors of my car, JUST IN CASE I didn’t give enough OOF in opening the doors.  She checked. Still no luck. BUT she reminded me about roadside assistance. 
I called my insurance.  Then called another Uber to head back to the venue where I met a guy named Marcus who did a little balloon shimmy on my door, & BOOM, I was in!

5 years ago, I don’t think I would have had the stability of mind to keep things in perspective like I did yesterday.  I know this has to do with my work in sound healing, meditation and yoga.  Showing up everyday to our practice supports us in these less than desirable situations.

Tonight starts Aligned AF. A seven week online series where we explore the seven main energy centers of the body, and how to apply the information into your daily life with tools to come into alignment, and reach that place of awareness and stability. See you tonight!

<3 Danielle

I must, I will, I AM!

From where I sit…

Every month I have the opportunity to hear your stories.  I have the opportunity to be let in to the vulnerable parts of your lives, and play a part in your Physical, Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual growth. What an AWE-some role I get to play…  and I don’t take it lightly. •
Which is why I seek out mentors.
Which is why I make time to learn.
Which is why I meditate.
Which is why I share personal stories of success and failure.
If I am not doing my own due diligence, why would you?

I want to leave you with something to think about before tomorrows sound bath…

Pick an area of your life you are happy with and ask yourself , “What about this makes me happy?” Write that down.

Now, pick an area of your life you are not happy about.  Ask yourself, “ What about this makes me unhappy?” Write that down.

It doesn’t matter whether its your health, loving your work, having more energy, abundance in finances, fulfilling relationships, or passionate sex… it’s the story, the belief system attached to it that propels you forward, or stops you dead in your tracks from making progress!

Tomorrow night, I will invite you to be open to becoming aware of the belief and story you are attached to (even subconscious)  so that you can CHOOSE to turn your “I should’s” into “I must, I will, I AM!”

You have a choice to live a life you love.  You can show up and align, or you can blame and fail.  I’m not saying its easy or comfortable.  But the only way you are going to get what you want is to bulldozes right through it!

Ways I can support you:

1. Monthly Sound Baths (there is one tomorrow –Wednesday the 18th, $20)

2. Monthly Sound Healing Tracks – Sound Healing Session at  home ($20 a month)

3. Aligned AF : An online 7 part series to help you align with your truth, take action, and KICK AS*!! (Starts July 23rd, $35)

4.  1 on 1 coaching! (Starts when you say YES! $20 - $125)

5.  Sound Healing 101 (Gain confidence in your Sound Healing and Energy work! No experience necessary/ no instruments necessary Aug 18th)

Recognize that the resources you have been asking for are there for you, and take action. 📸We Heal Too.

<3 Danielle

I am Collected.

“I am collected.”

Our emotional state of being shows what we focus on. It’s the driving force for our decisions, and it can have an affect on our physical, mental, and spiritual body.

2016, I had just moved back to Atlanta. Once I moved back, I was essentially dumped from the organization that I moved here to work with. I was collaborating with them to create a certification program for sound healers. They had decided that they were moving on from the project without me and with a couple of people from Princeton. I was crushed. All of a sudden my internal story changed... I’m not smart enough. What do I really know about sound healing. What I have I really done for my clients or my industry... the pain from this disappointment knocked me clear off my path and vision. So much so, that I developed inflammation in the arteries of my heart, causing immense breathing issues. Once I saw my emotions through everything clear up, but I was still left with this past experience that jarred me.

That new internal conversation of “well, who am I to do this work?” almost ended my career in Sound Healing... but then I heard this teeny tiny voice from within yelling with all its might “WHO THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU ARE NOT TOO!”

Thank GOD I listened to that voice! The organization wanted to partner with me for a reason… in the first 2 years of my career in Sound Healing I had a successful 1 on 1 practice (success to me at that time was the business was paying for the business and clients were reaching results.) I was also providing sound healing sessions for LinkedIn, Wix.com, and had a successful monthly sound bath at Studiomix.

I started weekly Sound Healing sessions at Paradigm Therapy Center, where I now hire 2 sound healers in SF, and since moving back to Atlanta, have been able to build a sustainable sound healing business in less than 2 years working with corporate clients, having monthly sound baths, and teaching sound healing... WITH OUT the organization that originally wanted to work with me.

I share this because I almost quit. I almost let the situation and internal conversation decide that I was done.
Change the story, CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

<3 Danielle

Wonder and Reflextion.

“And today I wonder... how will I bring more magic into my life.. more passion.. more me.” And as I reflect I realize that magic is in everything, that I bring the passion, and I get to choose to step into the shoes of me everyday.

And when I don’t feel the magic, the passion, or have a craving to be MORE me, it means I am not living in alignment. I am out of balance. And I have lost my sense of self somewhere.

Monday, July 23RD is the start of a 7 week class to support you in bringing in a little more magic, a little more passion, and a little more YOU into your life! Every week we will meet online to explore each of the 7 main Chakras. Each week you will receive tools to work with including: a 5min Sound Bath meditation, a pdf of the affirmations for that chakra, a list of the essential oils and crystals to support that chakra, as well as the Toning Meditation of the Seed Sounds for each Chakra. During our online video call, I will lead you in a guided meditation, you will learn about that chakra and the tools given to you to use in a way that you will be able to apply it in your daily life to create balance, find even more joy, and magic!

Don’t worry if you miss a call! I gotchu! All calls will be recorded and the replay will be sent to the group (only). I have set up a private FB group as well, so we can come together in community with our experiences and to cheer each other on.

If you have come to my sound baths before, then you know how important learning about the chakras is to help you figure out your experiences. I want to empower you with the knowledge and experience to decipher these experiences for yourself. You deserve to live a life you love! Let’s align so that there is more magic, more passion, and more YOU!

For this series only! $35 

<3 Danielle

Triggered!

Last week someone called me a Bitch.

It started with a conversation about my work followed by her telling me that I was the nicest person she knew... BOOM! I was triggered!
I blurted out, “What does that say about you?” Damn... it was rude. It was not compassionate. And it was not what this person was ready to hear. Here was the conversation:
“Excuse me!!” (She rightfully scolded me!)
“I am so sorry. Really. You didn’t deserve that especially from for someone you just met.”

She let her guard down just a little to ask, “Well, why would your just say something like that!”
“You’re right. I don’t know you. I don’t know your life. It’s none of my business... I was triggered by what you said.”
“Why would that trigger you?” She asked. (A little less angry) “... I was triggered because I automatically made the assumption that if I really was the ‘nicest person you knew’ then that means you are saying YES to a lot of people who are not nice to you. And that thought makes me angry because you deserve to have people in your life who genuinely care about you and are nice to you.”

She was quiet. She called me a bitch. And she left.

I had to sit with this for a few days. Of course circling how I could have handled the situation better. Been more compassionate. Asking myself what the root of that anger that fired up on me… I didn’t have her email and I was hoping I would run into her again.

I was lucky... she looked up my website and emailed me!!! She shared about her life and that she had been saying YES to people who are not nice to her... who take advantage of her. She shared about her bad marriage. Her kids. Her recent health problems. About how much she is hurting and how much she hates life but didn’t know what to do... and how I triggered her!

And then she thanked me... she didn’t know what to do before... but now she did. She said it felt so good to call me bitch (hahah!) and stand up for herself but what I said was true.

I’m not saying to poke your nose in others business. I got lucky. I need to work on why that triggered me... but there is something to this. Where are YOU saying YES to people who are not nice to you? And what is the fear around saying NO or phasing them out of your life? Saying YES to them is saying NO to you. This is one way you can empower yourself. ...You deserve to live a life you love!

<3 Danielle